Meet, Mingle & Dance or just Meet & Mingle!

The best parties for the 40+ crowd - fun and friendly!

Great Dance Music , Great Atmosphere, Always NEW people!

Coming to one of our parties is probably the best way to improve your social life in a hurry!

The 40+


(760) S-I-N-G-L-E-S  (24 hr info)



Dave is Party Host (single & looking)

Let the Fireworks Begin!

How great would it be to meet the love of your life at the


Mid-Week Mixer!

7pm-11pm  (doors open at 6;30)

->WED, FEB. 28

in the intimate nightclub at


8110 Aero Dr.  San Diego, 92123

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Last mid-week mixer here, we had almost 150 people! 

_________Great Party Features________________

 ~ "The NEW FACES Mixer"!   BRING A FRIEND(s)  who is NEW PERSON (one who has never been to a 40+ SINGLES PARTY, or who didn't come to one in 2017), and you'll both receive a great  San Diego t-shirt.   Must be paying guests, arrive by 8pm & show this NEW FACES promo on your phone or tablet ->>> before going in to the party (NOT AFTER)

 ~Enjoy the intimate & comfortable atmosphere of the night club at the 4 Points!

~ You'll see an "international" mix of up to 100 -150 Single men and women. You can meet, mingle, and dance or just meet & mingle - you're sure to meet some wonderful people!

~ And, you'll ALWAYS see NEW people because at least 1/3 to 1/2 of the people at each party are NEW, FIRST TIME  ...also this is a multi-group mixer!

~Ages mostly 40's & 50's (40ish-60ish),  some a little younger and some a little older.... but all are welcome!

~ Our Great DJ with the most popular music - from Old to New, Mild to Wild, Rock to Romantic, Swing to Salsa &Latin to Line Dances! Something for everyone!

~ The Dance floor  will be jamming all night! 

~ Tasty chips on the tables and Bar!

~  Appetizers, sandwiches and dinners are available!

~And you'll  have a chance to win rounds of golf here at the 4 Points'  9 hole course!

~Fresh roses on the tables!


~ Reasonable drink prices




~ Our now famous "decadent" CHOCOLATES at evening's end!
~and Friendly people, hostess, bartender, and of course - host!
What else could you ask for if you're Single, around 40-60  and would like to have a great time & meet new people?

~The bar takes CREDIT CARDS    :>)
~We can take a CC or Pay Pal for admission - $1.95 svc. chg (slow process.  Better to bring cash.)
___________Dress Code________________

Men - NO JEANS, t-shirts, sports hats, sweats, etc...  You must look good to get in!

Ladies - Cocktail or party dress or whatever you like because you always look good!  :)))

$12  or $10 if you arrive before 7pm (doors open at 6:30)
Special Admission:  Military/Vets with I.D. - $7 before 7 ($10 after)

See you there!




Take an easy scroll down our site & see what's interesting

~ The Schedule & Upcoming Special events!  (above)

~ What they are saying about the parties!

~ Have Your Birthday Party at our Party! 

~ Business Networking at  our parties!

~ About the 40+ Singles Parties!

~ Get on our mailing list!

~ The "Top Ten"

~ We are "WEDDING PLANNERS"!  Let us know if you met at our party and are getting married!

~ Find a wife for Dave!   $1,000 cash reward (finder's fee)!

~ Sponsors and Friends !



"Hi dave. Thank you so much for your effort to make the New Year's Eve party so nice for us!

The food and ambiance was great!

You went all out with the party favors, champagne,  give-aways and decorations.

 Just wanted to let you know I appreciate it. Have a great New Year.



"You can post this in the internet, if you chose to use it!


I am new to San Diego, and have been attending since November 2013.


The music is the best and the men attending usually a lot of fun!!


Everyone at the front desk is very helpful!!


Luz Marina Villarreal"



"I went to your Valentine's Day party Friday night, and I was surprised - almost shocked at

how many people were there,  and almost  an even number from both sexes! I danced all night!

Susan D.


"Came to the Doubletree for my first party, but the woman at the front desk wouldn't let me in because I was wearing jeans and a nice sweatshirt - a real nice one.  I poked my head in and saw a big crowd in the room - so I decided to go home and change!  Glad I did!  You had a lot of hot women there!  All races too - White, Asian, Black, Hispanic.  It was like the United Nations, and a wide variety of ages, which I liked also, even though I was younger than most.  Everyone socialized with everyone else!  Well worth the few bucks to get in and definitely well worth going home to change!  I'll know better next time!"



Smelly Party !

'Valentine's Party...very nice party, but there was an awful smell in the room when I first arrived..... Dave and the DJ kept telling everyone that it was just something about a burned out bulb. It was bad!  Permeated the room, and even the lobby downstairs.  I was about to leave, but after a short while it seemed to disappear.  Good thing that I remained, because I met a nice guy and at the end of the evening he took a rose off the table and gave it  me.  I'm out of town on business for a couple of weeks, but we are going  to meet there at the next party. The party  really ended smelling like a ROSE!"

Elena W.


As host of the parties,  I like to ask people how they are liking the night.  Most comments are about the music.  On this one occasion,  I asked two ladies (girlfriends) who came to the party together, how THEY liked the music.  First one didn't like it - she said  that the DJ plays too much OLD music.  The second  wasn't happy either- she said that he played too much NEW music!  ...and then they began to  laugh and "argue" about it between themselves!  ha,ha!  Funny - but absolutely true story!

It's the strangest thing... ya know - you just can't please everyone, but I try,

So, let ME know if there is music that you'd like to hear!  :>)




If your EXACT birthday falls on the EXACT date of our party,

we would like to make you and up to 3 of your friends, guests at the party!

(yes, complimentary admission for you and your friends)

... and you will receive a bottle of the finest vintage wine (2016) to take home!  ;>)

Just call us or send an email as soon as you know that you'll be coming to the party.

Please contact us by the day before the party at the latest,

The birthday person's name will be the (secret) password for the complimentary admission.

You will  be asked to present a driver's license (or facsimile) showing your actual birth date.

That's all!

So, on your birthday, come and have your party at our party!

*Note; If your birthday is on Dec 31, (New Years) we will make YOUR admission complimentary,  but  we can not comp friends.


Business Networking

If you have business cards or brochures for your service, business, profession, or hobby -

you are welcome to bring them to a party and we will gladly display them

on our reception table.

(we reserve the right not to display any cards that we feel are inappropriate)




  We are the parties that everyone has talked about in San Diego since the 90's and then again back  since 2010!

As your host, I try to make the parties fun, comfortable, reasonably priced, and conducive  to meeting new people. I am more interested in giving you a great experience, and good value, rather than how much money I can get from you at the door!

When you've come to a few parties, you'll feel like you're coming to "CHEERS", where everyone knows your name"!

The parties are geared for men and women generally around the 40's & 50's some younger and some older attend.  Anyone near those ages will feel comfortable.  All are welcome!

We always have one of our popular DJ's, who will try to play as many requests as possible;

Except for special parties such as New Years Eve, the admission is always cash at the door.  NY Eve we take reservations w/  credit cards.

Dress code for MEN: stylish - No jeans, t-shirts, sports hats, flip flop, sweats etc. (Women always look good, so no need to mention:>)

 The cash bar also includes a variety of non-alcoholic beverages.

So, come to the fun, friendly parties, where you're sure to meet some wonderful people!





(if link doesn't work, please just send a regular email)

We will gladly include you on our VIP email list to receive advance updates & special discounts!


~The Top Ten List ~

Do's & Don'ts at a party ...

Having put on over 3,000 dance parties for single adults,  I have noticed some things  that people should do and should not do if they REALLY want to have a good time and meet new people. See how many sound familiar....

1) Have a positive attitude, be sociable, smile a lot, & come to have fun with no expectations!

2) Place yourself where the action is;  closer to the dance floor, or closer to the bar area. Don't hide in corners!

3) Women - do not congregate all night with a group of other women - especially sitting. Try walking around by yourself or with one other woman. It's much less intimidating for a man to ask you to dance if he doesn't have to do it in front of your entire group. (and with the fear of possibly being rejected.)

4) "When you see an (interesting) stranger across a crowed room", be sure to flash a big smile!  A smile is probably the most inviting and welcoming gesture that you can legally make! ;>)

5) Whether or not you're having an alcoholic drink, keep a glass of something (water, juice, soda, virgin drinks) in your hand anyway - it looks more sociable...especially men -  otherwise you will be free to cross your arms or stand with hands in your pockets, both of which give off negative body language and are very uninviting positions!  Make yourself look like you are IN the party and not an OBSERVER - put something in your hands.

6a) Men - do not hesitate to ask women to dance just because you think that she might refuse. Most women will absolutely dance if asked.

6b) Women - do not hesitate to ask men to dance just because you think that he might refuse. Most men will absolutely dance if asked.

6c) Similarly, if you'd really rather not dance  with someone - just say ''no thank you".  If you say something like,  "maybe later " or "not right now" - it's guaranteed that that person will come back later

7) If you came by yourself, don't hesitate to socialize with people of the same'll be surprised how many new friends you'll make, and after coming to the parties,  our parties almost become like "Cheers", where "everyone knows your name."

8) Don't allow yourself to get tied down to one person all night if you don't really want to. You might say something like "I've enjoyed talking with you, and I now I'm going to mingle for a while".

9) We have tons of great music so, please do make requests of the DJ or your host.

10)  Men... One of the my "Laws of attraction" is that  - the sharper you dress, the more women will be attracted to you

 Some of the above may sound corny, but only YOU can determine if you'll  meet people and have a good time, so - GO FOR IT!



You are getting Married? 


Did you meet at a 40+ Singles Party, and you are getting married?  Please contact me, because if you would like to have your wedding  ceremony,  right, smack in the middle of our singles party, I will provide  everything below for the big event! We will stop the party to have your wedding ceremony in front of  up to 200 of your "closest friends"!



~The Ceremonial Room or Hall

~ The music by our very popular DJ - (request your special songs)!

 ~ Flowers for the bridal party! (certain limits here) !

~ Free admission for your guests (up to 25 free)!

~and even your wedding night in a beautiful guest room at the hotel!

and possibly more!

So let me know!




24 Hour recorded party schedule & info

(760)S-I-N-G-L-E-S        (760)746-4537




and collect $1,000.00 cash reward *

 a finder's fee!  (recompenesa en Espanol)!

(above photo2016)

As the host of the 40+ Singles Parties, and being single myself, I don't feel

that it's appropriate for me to approach a woman at a party for a date -

after all, she is my customer.

(of course, I am open to a woman approaching me for a date!  ha, ha!)


Because of this unusual situation that I find myself in, I have developed a website for myself -

At my website, you will notice that I am actually offering a

a reward of $1,000 cash, - a "finder's fee",  (recompensa, en Espanol),

for the person who introduces me to (or is directly responsible for me meeting) the woman that I marry*

So, check out my website,,

and especially the YouTube videos on the site!

Good luck to all of us....

(and I'll just keep that cool $1,000  in the bank, drawing no interest at all,  until you find Ms Right for me!)



1)  Reward does not apply for introducing me to a woman at a party that I  host or  a woman who has been to one my parties, or a woman that I have already met in the past.

2)  The "finder" who  sends or introduces me to the woman, must identify him or herself  to me by EMAIL within one week of me meeting or being introduced to her.   (Purpose:   so that if (and after) I marry the woman, a person can not then claim that THEY were the one who introduced us.< in order to claim the reward! > Fair is Fair!)

3)  Reward is in effect if you see it here and on my website,





Boys & Girls Club of San Diego

4635 Clairemont Mesa Blvd

San Diego, Ca   92117

Donations accepted!





A great gag gift

from $19.95  + s&h

~ for an Over-the Hill Birthday

~for a gag Anniversary gift

~ for Trick or Treat Halloween "gift"

~for April Fools' Day

for any occasion where someone beats you (at tennis, cards, or their team beat yours, etc)




____________________Thanks for visiting The 40+ SINGLES PARTIES and come back soon and often!______________






*2017 SERVICE MARK APPLIED FOR The 40+ SINGLES PARTIES!  Singles in San Diego,  The Young Executive Singles Network , (The Y.E.S. Network of San Diego), Eligible in San Diego, The 30+ SINGLES PARTIES , and CLUB 40Something, CLUB 40+SINGLES,  CLUB 30+ SINGLES ,are all registered service marks and all rights are reserved 1992 -2016, 2017



































































~  COSTUMES OPTIONAL, but if you do wear a costume, (and it's more fun if you do) I recommend not covering your face very much ...Don't forget that you want to meet others, so let them see your smile!  Just a suggestion - but no one ever listens to me, anyway!  boo, hoo!  :>)

 ~The ambiance of the beautiful Doubletree!

~ You'll see a great "international" mix of up to 200 Single men and women. You can meet, mingle, and dance or just meet & mingle - either way, you'll meet some nice people!

~ And, you'll ALWAYS see NEW people because at least 1/3 to 1/2 of the people at each party are NEW, FIRST TIME!

~Ages mostly 40ish-60ish...  some  are a little younger and some are a little older.... but all are welcome!

~ Our Great DJ with the most popular music - from Old to New, Mild to Wild, Rock to Romantic, Swing to Salsa &Latin to Line Dances!

~ The Dance floor  will be jamming all night! 


~ $300+ in prizes ...


An RCA, ANDROID 7" TABLET with case & more!

(facsimile... with case only, not keyboard) 



~Fresh roses on the tables!




~ Our now famous "decadent" CHOCOLATES at evening's end!
~and Friendly people, hostess, bartender, and of course - host!
~The bar DOES  take CREDIT CARDS - no svc. chg.!   :>)
~We can take a CC or Pay Pal for admission - $1.95 svc. chg. (sorry)


What else could you ask for if you're  Single, around 40-60  and would like meet new people????


$15,  or  $12 if you arrive before 8pm (doors open at 7:30)
Special Admission:   Military/ Vets with I.D. - $7 before 8pm, $10 after!







Bring a NEW PERSON (s), and you'll both or all receive

a $5 coupon toward any drink at our bar!

*(A NEW PERSON is one who has never been to a 40+ party OR not in 2017 or longer ago)



Grand Ballroom


 595 Hotel Circle South,  SD, 92108


 ~The ambiance of the beautiful  MARRIOTT Courtyard with it's comfortable atmosphere to meet new people!

~ You'll see a great "international" mix of up to 200 interesting Single men and women You can meet, mingle, and dance or just meet & mingle!

~ Tons of the people will be FIRST TIME, so come and meet lots of NEW  PEOPLE!

~Ages mostly 40ish-60ish...  some younger and some older.... but all are welcome!

~ Our Great DJ with the most popular music - from Old to New, Mild to Wild, Rock to Romantic, Swing to Salsa &Latin to Line Dances!

~ The Dance floor  will be jamming all night!


~ Fun door prizes!

~Fresh roses on the tables!


~ Our now famous "decadent" CHOCOLATES at evening's end!
- NOTES:  CASH BAR - so no credit cards at the bar. There is an ATM in the hotel, of course

We appreciate you buying your drinks AT THE BAR IN THE PARTY ROOM.  (if we don't make enough in sales, we won't be invited back)

(we can take a CC or Pay Pal for admission - $1.95 svc chg.)
MEN - NO jeans, t-shirts, flip-flops,sandals, sports hats, etc
LADIES:  You always look good, so no need to mention!  :>)
$15,  or  $12 before 8pm (doors open at 7:30)
Special Admission:   Military with I.D.,  $7 ALL NIGHT!


See you there!







The fun and friendly parties for the 40+ crowd!

Coming to our parties is  probably the best way to improve your social life in a hurry!

Let the Fireworks  begin -   come and find your Mr. or Ms. Right!

The 40+


                                   Dave is host                                                      

(760) S-I-N-G-L-E-S   (24 hour recorded schedule)



The 2nd March Madness Mixer!


8110 Aero Drive, SD, 92123

7;30 - Midnight       In Skies nightclub lounge!

"The last  Friday night party at the 4 Points Sheraton was HUGE!

People say that our 4 POINTS SHERATON parties are the best Nightclub  parties for Singles 40+!

Best for DJ!

Best for Ambiance!

Best for Fun & Friendliness!

Best  for  Hostesses  (and Host)!!!

Best overall value for the cover charge!

Best atmosphere for adult singles to meet new people!

Best and most comfortable party for people attending for the first time!

Best Overall!

~Party Features~

~A great "international" mix of single men and women mostly about 40-60... some younger & some older, but all ages are welcome

~ A Dance floor that will be packed all night long!

~ Our High Energy DJ with all your favorite dance music, from Old to New,  Rock to Romantic, Swing to Salsa, Latin to Line Dances  - Something for everyone!

~Fresh roses on  the tables!   

~ Complimentary, yummy chips on the bar and tables!

~$500 in  great door prizes including

"ELITE "LIMO  & Party Bus Service (worth $350)!

~ Appetizers, Dinners and Drinks available at reasonable prices!

~Friendly bartender, hostesses, and of course your host, too!
~ And our now famous chocolates at evening's end
Admission:  $12,  or  $10 before 8pm (doors open at 7:30)
Special Admission:   Military with I.D.,  $7 all night!

Dress for Men:  NO JEANS, t-shirts, shorts, sandals, sports hats, sweats, etc.  You must look good to get in!

Ladies always look good, so no need to mention!  ha,ha!

The parties just keep getting bigger and better, partly because we are more interested in you having fun and meeting new people, and less interested in getting your money!  We try to make the parties comfortable & conducive for you to meet, all at a ridiculously fair Admission cost!
So, If you really want to dance or just start meeting new people, you'll be there!
And, at these parties, it's a better strategy to come earlier, rather than later!
Oh, And Ladies,
you can feel perfectly comfortable coming by yourself as many do, or certainly come with friends.  It's a very non threatening atmosphere.
HOPE TO SEE YOU AT   THE 4 POINTS - it's going to be another  great night!